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"I am the resurrection and the life. He who
believes in me will live, even though he dies, and whoever lives
and believes in me will never die." (John 11:25-26)
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Blessed are they who mourn, for they will be
comforted. Matthew
5:5 <:))))<><
"Do not be saddened this day, for rejoicing in the Lord
must be your strength!" (Nehemiah 8:10) <:))))<><
"His master replied, 'Well done, good and faithful
servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you
in charge of many things. Come and share your master's happiness!"
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"And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes."
Revelation 7:17b <:))))<><
"May all those who have died come to the fullness of the
resurrection. May those who mourn be comforted."
Prayer After Death
of Loved One
Saints of God, come to his/her aid! Come to meet
him/her, angels of the Lord!
R. Receive his/her soul and present him/her to God the Most
High.
May Christ, Who called you, take you to Himself;
may angels lead you to Abraham's side.
R. Receive his/her soul and present him/her to God the Most
High.
Give him/her eternal rest, O Lord, and may Your
light shine upon him/her forever.
R. Receive his/her soul and present him/her to God the Most
High.
Let us pray: We commend our brother (sister) N. to
you, Lord.
Now that he/she has passed from this life, may he/she live on in
Your presence.
In Your mercy and love, forgive whatever sins
he/she may have committed through human weakness. We ask this
through Christ our Lord.
R. Amen.
see also "The Song
of Farewell" below
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Prayers for the
Deceased for Forgiveness and Peace and for
Mourners
Lord Jesus, our Redeemer, You willingly gave
Yourself up to death so that all people might be saved and pass
from death into a new life. Listen to our prayers; look with love
on Your people who mourn and pray for their dead
brother/sister.
Lord Jesus, You alone are holy and compassionate; forgive our
brother/sister his/her sins.
By dying You opened the gates of life for those who believe in You;
do not let Your brother/sister be parted from You, but by Your
glorious power give him/her light, joy, and peace in heaven where
You live for ever and ever. Amen.
My brother (sister) in faith, I entrust
you to God Who created you.
May you return to the One Who formed you from the dust of this
earth.
May Mary, the angels, and all the saints come to meet you as you go
forth from this life.
May Christ Who was crucified for you bring you freedom and
peace.
May Christ, the Son of God, Who died for you take you into His
kingdom.
May Christ, the Good Shepherd, give you a place within His
flock.
May He forgive your sins and keep you among His people.
May you see your Redeemer face to face and enjoy the sight of God
forever. Amen.
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also: "Go forth, Christian soul, from this world
in the name of the God the almighty Father, who created you, in the
name of Jesus Christ, Son of the Living God who suffered for you,
in the name of the Holy Spirit, who was poured out upon you, go
forth, faithful Christian. May you live in peace this day, may your
home be with God, with Mary, the virgin Mother of God, with Joseph,
and all the angels and saints. Amen"
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DE PROFUNDIS Psalm 129 (130) Out of the depths
I cry to you, O Lord.
Lord, hear my
voice! O let your ears be attentive To the voice of my pleading. If
you, O Lord, should mark our guilt, Lord, who would survive? But
with you is found forgiveness: For this we revere you. My soul is
waiting for the Lord, I count on his word. My soul is longing for
the Lord More than watchman for daybreak. Let the watchman count on
daybreak And Israel on the Lord. Because with the Lord there is
mercy And fullness of redemption. Israel indeed he will redeem From
all its iniquity.
Commentary: The psalmist was praying at
a time of great sadness and despair for himself and the Hebrew
people. He could see no way in which the sadness would end. That is
why he calls to God 'out of the depths'. He was also deeply
conscious of his own sins and the people's sins, but knew he could
rely on God's promise of loving forgiveness. He hoped in God with
the confidence of someone who at the darkest hour of the night
looks forward to the light of dawn. This psalm has been one the
Church's favourite prayers for the dead. It applies to the whole
Church. It applies to the dead person, who returns to God as a
sinner, trusting in God's love and compassion, looking beyond dying
to the morning light of eternal life with God. It applies also to
us who are left in the depths of sorrow, repenting of our own sins
too and confidently looking forward to sharing the same everlasting
light of heaven. I hope this will be of some help to you. God
bless! Monsignor Richard Rutt [RIP August 2011] (retired
priest of Falmouth parish - contributed by him.)
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A reading from the book of Wisdom 4:
4-15 (Jerusalem Bible translation)
The virtuous man, though he die
before his time, will find rest. Length of days is not what makes
age honourable, nor number of years the true measure of life;
understanding, this is man’s grey hairs, untarnished life, this is
ripe old age. He has sought to please God, so God has loved him; as
he lived among sinners, he has been taken up.
He has been carried off so that evil
may not warp his understanding or treachery seduce his soul; for
the fascination of evil throws the good into the shade, and the
whirlwind of desire corrupts a simple heart.
Coming to perfection in so short a
while, he achieved long life; his soul being pleasing to the Lord,
who has taken him quickly
from the wickedness around him.
Yet people look on, uncomprehending;
it does not enter their heads that grace and mercy await the chosen
of the Lord,
and protection, God’s holy ones. [This is the Word of the
Lord.]
Other readings suggestions:
Wisdom 3:1-6,9 |
1 Peter 1:3-9 |
John 14:1-6 ~ link#2
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Romans 14: 7-12 | Apocalypse/Revelations 14:
13 | Lectionary
Readings for funerals |
1Thessalonians 4:13-18
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A Gospel acclamation: 'Happy
are those who have died in the Lord; Let them rest from their
labours for their good deeds go before them'
An alternative Hymn to Psalm
23: "The king of love my Shepherd is" YouTube
version
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some more
'prayerful' offerings and suggestions can be found via the external
links below
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'Death is nothing at all' ~
Canon Henry Scott Holland of St. Paul's Cathedral | info
Death is nothing at all. I have only
slipped away into the next room.
I am I, and you are you. Whatever we were to each other that we
still are.
Call me by my old familiar name, speak to me in the easy way which
you always used.
Put no difference in your tone, wear no forced air of solemnity or
sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed
together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for
me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was,
let it be spoken without effect, without the trace of shadow on
it.
Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was;
there is unbroken continuity.
[There is absolute and unbroken continuity. What is this death but
a negligible accident?]
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just
around the corner.
All is well.
[editor's note: If you find the opening words unhelpful - as death is
also 'huge' for so many - you could vary or omit them as the remainder this
writing is encouraging.] NB. see also "To Those I Love and Those Who Love Me"
below
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What is
dying? ~ 'A Parable
of Immortality' written by Henry van Dyke (1852 - 1933), often
misattributed because it was used by Bishop Brent and also misattributed to Victor Hugo. Full version is below with two often
used variations. [citation updated
09.2012 with thanks to Steve for
correction]
[full version]
I am standing upon that
foreshore.
A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and
starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength
and I stand and watch her until at length she hangs like a speck of
white clouds just where the sea and sky come down to mingle with
each other.
Then someone at my side says, "There! She's gone!"
"Gone where?"
"Gone from my sight, that's all". She is just as large in mast and
spar and hull as ever she was when she left my side; just as able
to bear her load of living freight to the place of her destination.
Her diminished size is in me, not in her. And just at that moment
when someone at my side says, "There! She's gone!" there are other
eyes watching her coming and other voices ready to take up the glad
shout, "Here she comes!" And that is dying.
[Variation #1]
A ship sails and I stand watching
till she fades on the horizon, and someone says, "she is gone".
Gone where?
Gone from my sight, that is all; she is just as large as when I saw
her...
The diminished size and total loss of sight is in me, not in her,
and just at the moment when someone says "she is gone", there are
others who are watching her coming, and other voices take up a glad
shout, "there she comes!"...
and that is dying.
[Variation #2]
I am standing on the sea
shore.
A ship sails to the morning breeze and starts for the
ocean.
She is an object of beauty and I stand watching her till at last
she fades on the horizon, and someone at my side says, "she is
gone."
Gone where? Gone from my sight, that is all: she is just as
large in the masts, hull and spars as she was when I saw her, and
just as able to bear her load of living freight to its
destination.
The diminished size and total loss of sight is in me, not her: and
just at the moment when someone at my side says, "she is gone,"
there are others who are watching her coming, and other voices take
up a glad shout, "there she comes" - and that is
dying.
Related link: "She is gone" ~
a poem by David Harkins alternate
link
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Do
Not Stand At My Grave And Weep often erroneously
referred to as "An
Indian Prayer" by Mary Frye (1932) + Wilbur Skeels (lyrics ©1996) see
wikipedia
article
Do Not Stand At My Grave And
Weep
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow;
I am the diamond glints on snow;
I am the sunlight on ripened grain;
I am the gentle Autumn's rain.
When you waken in the morning's
hush;
I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight;
I am the soft star that shines at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there, I did not die.
Version by Wilbur
Skeels can't be shown here for copyright reasons.
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A VARIATION:
In those quiet moments in the still
of the night
Remember to rejoice and celebrate life
Do not think of me gone and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow
I am the sunlight on the grain
I am the gentle autumn's rain
When you awaken in the morning hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
of quiet birds in flight
I am the soft stars that shine
You will hear my gentle voice
and remember to rejoice
Never give up your fight
and remember always
to Celebrate Life.... ~ Anon
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I'm
Free
Don't grieve for me for now I'm free,
I'm following the path God laid for me.
I took his hand when I heard him call,
I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day
To laugh, to love, to work or play.
Tasks left undone will stay that way,
I found that peace at close of day.
If my parting has left a void
Then fill it with remembered joy
A friendship shared, a laugh a kiss,
Ah yes, these things I, too, will miss. >>
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But not burdened with times of sorrow,
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My life has been full, I've savoured much.
Good friends, good times, a loved ones touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all to brief
Don't lengthen it now with undue grief,
Lift up you hearts and share with me,
God wanted me now,
He set me free.
© Janice M. Fair-Salters, by
kind permission of the author, published in "Voices From Beyond" see two other poems on this page
(citation updated 05.2014 with thanks to
author)
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I'M NOT
GONE Don't cry for me ,
now that I am free.
Just look around anywhere,
and that is where I'll be.
For I am the daylight ,
when the sun starts to rise.
I'm the bright rainbow,
you see with your eyes.
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I'm the tiny raindrops,
that sprinkle in the wind.
I'll always be here with you,
for there really is no end.
I'm the dew that's on the ground,
and the quietness all around.
Yes, I am so very happy,
with this new life I have found.
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I'm the peaceful summer breeze,
that flows softly through the trees.
I'm the bluebird in the sky,
that sings with such ease.
Yes, I am so very happy,
so happy to be free.
Understand my family and friends
and don't you cry for me.
~ Sheila Pearce
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'Farewell My Friends' By Gitanjali Ghei
(1961- 1977)
It was beautiful as long as it lasted, the journey
of my life, I have no regrets whatsoever, save the pain I'll leave
behind.
Those dear hearts who love and care, and the heavy with sleep ever
moist eyes, the smile in spite of a lump in the throat and the
strings pulling at the heart and soul,
The strong arms that held me up when my own strength let me down,
each morsel that I was fed with was full of love.
At every turning of my life I came across good friends, friends who
stood by me, even when the time raced me by.
Farewell farewell my friends, I smile and bid you goodbye.
No, shed no tears, for I need them not, all I need is your smile,
If you feel sad, do think of me, for that's what I'll like, when
you live in the hearts of those you love, remember then...... you
never die. from 'Poems of Gitanjali'
Included here by
kind permission of her family. The author was a girl who died of cancer at the age of 16,
and wrote
some of the most beautiful poems on death, compassion and faith in
God. more
info || 'Poems of Gitanjali' Oriel Press (Routledge & Kegan Paul) ISBN 0 85362
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To Those I Love And Those Who Love
Me
When I am gone, release me, let me go.
I have so many things to see and do.
You mustn’t tie yourself to me with tears.
Be happy that we had so many years.
I gave you my love, you can only guess
How much you gave to me in happiness.
I thank you for the love you have shown.
But now it’s time I travelled alone.
So grieve a while for me, if grieve you must.
Then let your grief be comforted by trust.
It’s only for a while that we must part,
So bless the memories within your heart.
I won’t be far away. For life goes on.
So if you need me call and I will come.
Though you can’t see or touch me, I’ll be there.
And if you listen with your heart you’ll hear,
All of my love around you soft and clear.
And then when you must come this way alone,
I’ll greet you with a smile and welcome you home. ~
(Anon)
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"Crossing The Bar"
by Alfred Lord Tennyson. info
Sunset and
evening star,
And one clear call for me!
And may there be no moaning of the bar,
When I put out to sea,
But such a
tide as moving seems asleep,
Too full for sound and foam,
When that which drew from out the boundless deep
Turns again home.
Twilight and
evening bell,
And after that the dark!
And may there be no sadness of farewell,
When I embark;
For tho’ from
out our bourne of Time and Place
The flood may bear me far,
I hope to see my Pilot face to face
When I have crossed the bar.
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"Sea-Fever" By John Masefield
(1878-1967) (English Poet Laureate, 1930-1967.)
I must down to the seas again, to
the lonely sea and the sky,
And all I ask is a tall ship and a star to steer her by,
And the wheel's kick and the wind's song and the white sail's
shaking,
And a grey mist on the sea's face, and a grey dawn breaking.
I must down to the seas again, for the call of the running tide
Is a wild call and a clear call that may not be denied;
And all I ask is a windy day with the white clouds flying,
And the flung spray and the blown spume, and the sea-gulls
crying.
I must down to the seas again, to the vagrant gypsy life,
To the gull's way and the whale's way where the wind's like a
whetted knife;
And all I ask is a merry yarn from a laughing fellow-rover
And quiet sleep and a sweet dream when the long trick's
over.
Read at funeral of an old sailing
friend, 'M.T.' - R.I.P. 6th January 2012
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Miss Me But Let Me
Go
When I come to the end of the road
and the sun has set on me,
I want no rites in a gloom filled room,
Why cry for a soul set free.
Miss me a little--but not too long,
and not with your head bowed low,
Remember the love that we once shared,
Miss me--but let me go.
For this is a journey that we all must take,
And each must go alone.
It's all a part of the Master's plan,
A step on the road to home.
When you are lonely and sick of heart,
Go to the friends we know.
And bury your sorrows in doing good deeds,
Miss me--but let me go.
© Janice M. Fair-Salters, by kind permission
of the author, published in "Voices From Beyond" see two other poems on this page (citation
updated 05.2014 with thanks to author as previously mis-attributed
here to Edgar A. Guest, see his poems and links below)
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Remember me when I
am gone away.
Remember me when I am gone away.
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand.
Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you planned:
Only remember me: you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had.
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than you should remember and be sad.
~ Christina
Rossetti
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Don't Cry.
Daddy please don't
look so sad,
Momma please don't cry.
Cause I'm in the arms of Jesus,
And He sings me lullabies.
Please try not to question God,
Don't think He is unkind.
Don't think He sent me to you
And then changed his mind.
You see I'm a special child,
I am needed up above.
I'm the special gift you gave Him,
A product of your love.
I'll always be there with you,
So watch the sky at night.
Look for the brightest star
And know that's my halo's brilliant light. >>
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You'll see me in the morning frost
That mists your window pane.
That's me in the summer showers,
I'll be dancing in the rain.
When you feel a gentle breeze
From a gentle wind that blows.
Know that it is me
Planting a kiss upon your nose.
When you see a child playing
And your heart feels a tug,
Don't be sad mommy,
That's just me giving your heart a hug.
So daddy don't look so sad
And momma please don't cry.
I'm in the arms of Jesus
And He sings me lullabies!
Anon
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A Child of
Mine (often cited as 'God's Lent
Child')
I’ll lend you
for a little while, a child of mine, God said
For you to love the while he lives and mourn for when he’s
dead.
It may be six or seven years, or forty-two or three
But will you, till I call him back, take care of him for me?
He’ll bring his charms to gladden you and should his stay be
brief
You’ll always have his memories as a solace in your grief.
I cannot promise he will stay, since all from earth return,
But there are lessons taught below I want this child to learn.
I’ve looked this whole world over in my search for teachers
true
And from the folk that crowd Life’s lane I have chosen you.
Now will you give him all your love and not think the labour
vain,
Nor hate me when I come to take this lent child back again?
I fancy that I heard them say “Dear God, thy will be done.
For all the joys this child will bring the risk of grief we’ll
run.
We will shelter him with tenderness, we’ll love him while we
may
And for all the happiness we’ve ever known, we’ll ever grateful
stay.
But should the angels call him much sooner than we’d planned
We will brave the bitter grief that comes and try to
understand.”
Edgar A.
Guest (1881-1959) written in 1930? published 1949 in 'Living
The Years', publisher: Chicago, Reilly & Lee Co. [often mis-stated as 'author unknown' -
citation updated
08.2008 with thanks to ts for correction] | more poems -
Bereaved parent support links links below
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Heaven's
Rocking Chair by Ron
Tranmer ©
Are there rocking chairs in Heaven
where little babies go?
Do the angels hold you closely
and rock you to and fro?
Do they talk silly baby talk
to get a smile or two,
and sing the sleepy lullabies
I used to sing to you?
My heart is aching for you,
my angel child so dear.
You brought such joy into my life,
the short time you were here.
I know you're in a happy place,
and in God's loving care.
I dream each night I'm rocking you
in Heaven's rocking chair.
contributed by the
author, August 2011 - see below for more
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for wider, encouraging, supportive
poems contributed in 2012 by their author Ron
Tranmer click here
more poems below
contributed in 2012 by their author Ron Tranmer and visit rontranmer.com
Teardrops
And Rainbows
by Ron Tranmer ©
When sorrow
comes into our lives
and tears of sadness fall,
they never go unnoticed,
God sees them one and all.
Our tears are very precious
In the eyes of our dear Lord,
He calls them up to special clouds
where they are safely stored.
When these clouds are heavy laden
from the weight which they contain,
moisture falls upon to the earth,
and our tears come down as rain.
Then when the rain has ended,
look to the sky above.
and when you see a rainbow
God is sending us His love.
He knows we all face sorrow,
and He knows we all feel pain.
That's why He sends a rainbow
after every tear filled rain.
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Treasured
Moments by Ron Tranmer ©
I treasure
every moment
you spent in life with me.
I hoped to have you longer,
but it's not meant to be.
You left this world so suddenly.
I think my heart went too.
I feel so lost and lonely,
and I cry from missing you.
I know you're in a better place.
I know you're happy there.
I know one day I'll join you,
but the wait is hard to bear.
My heart feels like it's breaking
as I try to carry on.
You were my life, my everything,
but now sweetheart, you've gone.
I pray that God will give me strength
until He calls me too.
Then what joy will fill my heart
when I'm again with you.
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Heavy
Hearts by Ron Tranmer ©
With heavy
hearts and tear filled eyes
family and friends bid you goodbye.
Gathered this day united in sorrow,
yet sure in faith of a brighter tomorrow.
Although you've gone, we feel you near.
You are so loved by everyone here.
You touched our lives in numerous ways.
and brightened many of our days.
Sharing memories of time with you
is something that we love to do.
We laugh, we cry, with joy and pain.
Goodbye for now, until we meet again.
Take My
Hand by Ron Tranmer ©
Beyond
Earth's veil I cannot see
but my faith is strong, I trust in Thee.
I know in time I'll understand.
Until then Lord, please take my hand.
My purpose here, may I fulfill,
and in all things do Thy will.
The trials of life may I withstand.
Walk with me Lord and take my hand.
Then when I breathe my final breath
and close my eyes in earthly death,
may I not leave this world alone.
Lord, take my hand and walk me home.
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The Butterfly story
In a green
meadow filled with Milkweed and flowers there lived a colony of
caterpillars. They were a happy colony, living a quiet life in the
cool shade. For many months they were very busy, scurrying around
and munching on the soft Milkweed leaves.
They did notice that every once in a while one of the colony seemed
to lose interest in crawling around with its friends. It would go
off alone and crawl high up in the trees. It gradually moved out of
sight and was seen no more.
“Look!” said one of the caterpillars to another, “one of our colony
is climbing up to the tops of the trees. Where do you think he is
going?” Up, up and up it slowly went…even as they watched, the
caterpillar disappeared from sight. Its friends waited and waited
but it didn’t return.
“That’s funny!” said one caterpillar to another. “Wasn’t he happy
here?” asked another. “Where do you suppose he went ?” wondered a
third. No one had an answer. They were greatly puzzled.
Finally one of the caterpillars gathered its friends together. “I
have an idea. The next one of us who climbs to the tops of the
trees must promise to come back and tell us where he or she went
and why.” “We promise…” they all said solemnly.
One spring day not long after the caterpillar who had suggested the
plan found himself climbing high up into the trees. Up up and up he
went, higher and higher into the trees. Before he knew what was
happening he had broken through the canopy of leaves into the warm
sunlight and fell into a deep sleep.
When he awoke he looked about in surprise. He couldn’t believe what
he saw. A startling change had come over his old body. He now had
beautiful wings!
Even as he
struggled he felt an impulse to move his wings. The warmth of the
sun soon dried the moisture from his new body. He moved his wings
again and suddenly found himself flying into the blue sky.
He had become a butterfly. Swooping and dipping in great curves he
flew through the air. He felt exhilarated in the new
atmosphere.
By and by the new butterfly landed on a leaf to rest. Then it was
that he chanced to look below to the bottom of the meadow. Why, he
was right above his old friends the caterpillars! There they were,
crawling around and munching on Milkweed, just as he had been doing
before.
Then the butterfly remembered his promise. Without thinking the
butterfly darted down. He landed on a flower and looked into the
grass. Now that he was a butterfly he could no longer go back.
“I can’t return!” he said in dismay. “At least I tried, but I can’t
keep my promise. Even if I could go back, not one of the
caterpillars would know me in my new body. I guess I’ll just have
to wait until they become butterflies too. Then they’ll understand
what has happened to me and where I went.”
And the butterfly winged off happily into its new world of sun and
air.
Dear God, please remember those who have left the meadow we live
in…and remember us who are still here.
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When you feel Lonely
When You feel
Lonely
When a person you love passes away
Look to the night sky on a clear day.
The star that to you, appears to be bright,
Will be your loved one,
Looking upon you during the night.
The lights of heaven are what shows through
As your loved one watches all that you do.
When you feel lonely for the one that you love,
Look to the Heavens in the night sky above.
~ anon
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Remembrance
Remembrance
is a golden chain
Death tries to break,
but all in vain.
To have, to love, and then to part
Is the greatest sorrow of one's heart.
The years may wipe out many things
But some they wipe out never.
Like memories of those happy times
When we were all together.
~ anon
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The Rose
Beyond the Wall
Near
shady wall a rose once grew,
Budded and blossomed in God’s free light,
Watered and fed by morning
dew,
Shedding its sweetness day and night.
As it grew and blossomed fair and tall,
Slowly rising to loftier height,
It came to a crevice in the wall
Through which there shone a beam of light.
Onward it crept with added strength
With never a thought of fear or
pride,
It followed the light through the crevice’s length
And unfolded itself on the other side.
The light, the dew, the broadening viewWere found the same as
they were before,
And it lost itself in beauties new,
Breathing its fragrance more and more.
Shall claim of death cause us to grieve
And make our courage faint and
fall?
Nay! Let us faith and hope receive—
The rose still grows beyond the wall,
Scattering fragrance far and wide
Just as it did in days of yore,
Just as it did on the other side,
Just as it will forevermore. ~ A. L. Frink
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Leaving a dear one
The family
is not destroyed,
but transformed.
A part of it enters the invisible.
We believe that dying leads to absence,
when it really is a hidden presence.
We believe that it creates infinite distance,
when it does away with all distance
it returns to the spirit
what was for a time found in the flesh.
Every time someone leaves home and passes away
those left behind gain a link in heaven.
Heaven
is no longer home to angels,
unknown saints and a mysterious God,
but it becomes familiar.
It is the family house,
the house up above, so to speak.
From up there to down here,
memory, helping hands, calls
carry on.
F. Sertillanges
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Traditional American Indian Prayer; A Native American
poem, possibly by Ishi, the last living member of the Yahi Native
American tribe / people of The Pacific Northwest -
[attribution contributed and amended
14/09/11]
When I am dead
Cry for me a little
Think of me sometimes
But not too much.
Think of me now and again
As I was in life
At some moments it's pleasant to recall
But not for long.
Leave me in peace
And I shall leave you in peace
And while you live
Let your thoughts be with the living.
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He put his
arms around you, and lifted you to rest. God’s garden must be
beautiful, He always takes the best. He saw the road was getting
rough, and the hills were hard to climb. So He closed your weary
eyelids, and whispered "Peace be thine". It broke our hearts to
lose you, but you didn’t go alone. For part of us went with you,
the day God called you home. Irish
funeral prayer
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God saw you getting tired and a cure
was not to be. So He put His arms around you and whispered “come to
me.” With tearful eyes we watched you, and saw you pass away.
Although we loved you dearly, we could not make you stay. A golden
heart stopped beating, hard working hands at rest. God broke our
hearts to prove to us, He only takes the best. God looked
around His garden, and found an empty place. He then looked
down upon the earth, and saw your tired face. Irish funeral prayer
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[Loved one’s name]
Longing For One More Day. When we lose someone we love it seems
that time stands still. What moves through us is a silence... a
quiet sadness... A longing for one more day... one more word... one
more touch... We may not understand why you left this earth so
soon, or why you left before we were ready to say good-bye, but
little by little, we begin to remember not just that you died, but
that you lived. And that your life gave us memories too beautiful
to forget. We will see you again some day, in a heavenly place
where there is no parting. A place where there are no words that
mean good-bye. Irish funeral
prayer
Irish Bereavement
blessings - broken link
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If I should go
before the rest of you
If I should go before the rest of you.
Break not a flower nor inscribe a stone.
Nor when I'm gone speak in a Sunday voice.
But be the usual selves that I have known.
Weep if you must, parting is hell.
But life goes on, so sing as well. ~ Joyce Grenfell.
http://prayer-and-prayers.info/christian-prayers/prayer-for-bereavement.htm
Prayer for Bereavement
Dearest Jesus, who wept at the death of your
friend
and taught that they who mourn shall be comforted,
grant us the comfort of your presence in our loss.
Send Your Holy Spirit to direct us
lest we make hasty or foolish decisions.
Send Your Spirit to give us courage
lest through fear we recoil from living.
Send Your Spirit to bring us your peace
lest bitterness, false guilt, or regret take root in our
hearts.
The Lord has given.
The Lord has taken away.
Blessed be the name of the Lord.
Amen.
http://prayer-and-prayers.info/index.htm
http://prayer-and-prayers.info/christian-prayers/index.htm
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For All of You Waiting in Heaven
I
thought of you today, but that is nothing new.
I thought about you yesterday, and days before that too.
I think of you in silence, I often speak your name.
All I have are memories and a picture in a frame.
Your memory is a keepsake, from which I'll never part.
God has you in his arms. I have you in my heart.
Homilies for
All Saints Day 2011 -
click here
'Perhaps they are not stars but rather openings in
Heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through' ~ Eskimo
proverb
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When Tomorrow Starts Without Me.
When tomorrow starts without me, and I’m not there
to see,
If the sun should rise and find your eyes, all filled with tears
for me,
I wish so much you wouldn’t cry, the way you did today,
While thinking of the many things we didn’t get to say.
I know how much you love me, as much as I love you,
And each time that you think of me, I know you’ll miss me too.
But when tomorrow starts without me, please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name and took me by the hand.
And said my place was ready in Heaven far above,
And that I’d have to leave behind,
all those things I dearly love.
But as I turned to walk away, a tear fell from my eye,
For all my life, I’d always thought, I didn’t want to die.
I had so much to live for, so much yet to do,
It seemed almost impossible, that I was leaving you.
I thought of all the yesterdays, the good ones and the bad,
I thought of all the love we shared, and all the fun we had.
If I could relive yesterday, just even for a while,
I’d say goodbye and kiss you,
and maybe see you smile.
But then I fully realized, that could never be,
For emptiness and memories, would take the place of me.
And when I thought of worldly things, I might miss come
tomorrow,
I thought of you, and when I did, my heart was filled with
sorrow.
But when I walked through Heaven’s gates, I felt so much at
home.
When God looked down and smiled at me, from his great golden
throne.
He said, “This is eternity, and all I’ve promised you.
Today your life on Earth is past, and here it starts anew”.
“I promise no tomorrow, but today will always last,
And since each day’s the same day, there’s no longing for the
past”.
“But you have been so faithful, so trusting and so true,
Though there were times you did some things, you know you shouldn’t
do”.
“But you have been forgiven, and now at last you’re free,
So won’t you take my hand now and share My life with Me”.
So when tomorrow starts without me, don’t think we’re far
apart,
For every time you think of me, I’m right here in your
heart.
Janice M.
Fair-Salters © copyright - included here by kind permission of the
author, see others on this page and in her book "Voices From
Beyond"
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"Funeral
Blues" or "Stop all the
clocks"
is a poem by W.
H. Auden, published in its final, familiar form in 1938.
We cannot include it here for copyright reasons but you can watch
the performance from the film, 'Four Weddings and a Funeral'
on
YouTube (suggested by J.L. 03/13 thank
you)
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Family Tree a poem
A limb has fallen from the family
tree.
I keep hearing a voice that says, "Grieve not for me".
Remember the best times, the laughter, the song.
The good life I lived while I was strong.
Continue my heritage, I'm counting on you.
Keep smiling and surely the sun will shine through.
My mind is at ease, my soul is at rest.
Remembering all, how I truly was blessed.
Continue traditions, no matter how small.
Go on with your life, don't worry about falls.
I miss you all dearly, so keep up your chin.
Until the day comes we're together again.
Anon. (attribution
needed)
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For
Farmers
'The Old Farmer's Prayer'
Time just
keeps moving on,
Many years have come and gone,
But I grow older without regret,
My hopes are in what may come yet.
On the farm I work each day,
This is where I wish to stay,
I watch the seeds each season sprout,
From the soil as the plants rise out.
I study Nature and I learn,
To know the earth and feel her turn,
I love her dearly and all the seasons,
For I have learned her secret reasons.
All that will live is in the bosom of Earth,
She is the loving mother of all birth,
But all that lives must pass away,
And go back again to her someday.
My life too will pass from Earth,
But do not grieve, I say, there will be other birth,
When my body is old and all spent,
And my soul to Heaven has went.
Please compost and spread me on this plain,
So my body Mother Earth can claim,
That is where I wish to be,
Then Nature can nourish new life with me.
So do not for me grieve and weep,
I did not leave, I only sleep,
I am with the soil here below,
Where I can nourish life of beauty and glow.
Here I can help the falling rain,
Grow golden fields of ripening grain,
From here I can join the winds that blow,
And meet the softly falling snow.
Here I can help the sun’s warming light,
Grow food for birds of gliding flight,
I can be in the beautiful flowers of spring,
And in every other lovely thing.
So do not for me weep and cry,
I am here, I do not die.
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'Close The Gate'
For this one farmer the worries are
over, lie down and rest your head,
Your time has been and struggles enough, put the tractor in the
shed.
Years were not easy, many downright hard, but your faith in God
transcended,
Put away your tools and sleep in peace. The fences have all been
mended.
You raised a fine family, worked the land well and always followed
the Son,
Hang up your shovel inside of the barn; your work here on earth is
done.
A faith few possess led your journey through life, often a jagged
and stony way,
The sun is setting, the cattle are all bedded, and here now is the
end of your day.
Your love of God’s soil has passed on to your kin; the stories flow
like fine wine,
Wash off your work boots in the puddle left by blessed rain one
final time.
You always believed that the good Lord would provide and He always
had somehow,
Take off your gloves and put them down, no more sweat and worry for
you now.
Your labor is done, your home now is heaven; no more must you
wait,
Your legacy lives on, your love of the land, and we will close the
gate. ~
by Nancy Kraayenhof.
Read
more and
here
(above used at funeral of a retired
farmer parishioner in 2015)
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GRIEVING: "The
Hill"
A travelling man sat
down to rest from his journey by the side of the road. As he
rested, another man passed by. This other man, the traveller
observed, walked very slow and was bent forward, his expression was
troubled and pain reflected in his eyes.
"What ails you fellow?" called up the wise, but simple man. "Come
and join me and take a rest, for your form is such that I see a
need in you to share the burden that you carry."
The other man sat down, stared far into the distance for a while
and then began.
"I have lost the very dearest person known to me." Tears welled up
in his eyes as he spoke, he then fell silent for a short time
before continuing. "I feel that I am constantly walking up a hill
and that the wind is always against me, my feet are as heavy as
clay and in my stomach I carry hot coals. I say to myself now that
I must turn back to ease this pain. If I walk back down the hill
then maybe I will find that all of this is not true and that my
loved one will be waiting to greet me."
The traveller sat listening to the other man's story, and replied.
"You must not go back down the hill. You need to reach the top, for
thereafter you will find the path will level, the wind will soften,
your feet grow lighter and the hot coals will cool. To go back down
the hill will prolong your pain, for the path to your healing is
forward and up the hill."
As the traveller got up to continue his journey, he said to the
other man, "The one you have lost is not at the bottom of the hill
but with you all the time, for you carry their spirit in your
heart." Anonymous [contributed by CS march '05 - thank
you]
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A Prayer for Difficult Moments Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless
and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible, look kindly upon us
and increase Your mercy in us, that in difficult moments we might
not despair nor become despondent, but with great confidence submit
ourselves to Your holy will, which is Love and Mercy itself.
[Amen.] (Diary of St. Faustina, 950).
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"One day we will meet beside the river and
our Lord will dry every tear. For now, we must live in the joy of
that promise and recall that for every generation life is hard, but
God is faithful." ~ Bodie Thoene
'Death is not extinguishing the light. It is
putting out the lamp because the dawn has come.' ~ Rabindranath
Tagore ~
Nobel Prize winner 1913 ~ more
below
'In one of the stars, I shall be living.
In one of them, I shall be laughing. And so it will be as if all
the stars were laughing when you look at the sky at night.'
~ The Little Prince ~ Antoine de
Saint-Exupéry
'He who has gone, so we but cherish his
memory, abides with us, more potent, nay, more present than the
living man.' ~ Antoine de
Saint-Exupéry
'Life is eternal and love is immortal; And
death is only a horizon, And a horizon is nothing save the limit of
our sight.' ~ Rossiter W. Raymond
"Death is God's last and greatest gift to
the living" ~ Margaret
Eadie
'Be of good cheer about death and know
this as a truth - that no evil can happen to a good man, either in
life or after death.' ~ Socrates
'The day which we fear as our last is but
the birthday of eternity.' ~ Seneca
'I have died many a death in love, and
yet, had I not loved I would never have lived at all.'
~ David Lasater
'Is death the last sleep? No - it is the
last and final awakening.' ~ Sir Walter
Scott
'While we are mourning the loss of our
friend, others are rejoicing to meet him behind the
veil.' ~ John Taylor
'For what is it to die, But to stand in
the sun and melt into the wind? And when the Earth has claimed our
limbs, Then we shall truly dance.' ~ Kahlil
Gibran
'I shall not die of a cold. I shall die of
having lived.' ~ Willa
Cather
If we really think that home is elsewhere,
and that this life is a 'wandering to find home,' why should I not
look forward to the arrival? ~ C. S. Lewis
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'Remember the man who served his almighty
Creator, his country, his community, and most of all, his family.
He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often, and
loved much; who has enjoyed the trust of pure women, the respect of
intelligent men, and the love of little children; who has filled
his niche and accomplished his task; who has left the world better
than he found it, whether an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a
rescued soul; who has always looked for the best in others and
given them the best he had; whose life was an inspiration; whose
memory a benediction.' ~ Bessie
Anderson Stanley ??
'Let us all understand that death is not
an eraser. It does not remove the deeds or the meanings that
existed in anyone's life. It does not make poor men rich or great
men fallible. And when death comes, let us not romanticize its
presence nor the person it takes from us. Let us see death for what
it really is: a border that we all must cross; a border that, more
than any other, defines the lives we are able to lead. Do not mourn
for those who cross over. Rather, reflect on the definition they've
left behind. It is the only truth we are able to know here on
earth. When the definition is great, then celebrate it. When it is
lacking, then learn from it and improve on it. And use it to make
your own definition more truthful and loving and
miraculous.' ~ from 'Gideon'
by Russell
Andrews
'Looking back on the memory of the dance
we shared, beneath the stars above, for a moment all the world was
right. How was I to know that you'd ever say goodbye?
And now I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end, the way it
all would go.
Our lives are better left to chance.
I could have missed the pain, but I'd have had to miss the
dance.' ~ Garth Brooks,
The
Dance
'They that love beyond the world cannot be
separated by it. Death cannot kill what never dies.'
~ William Penn |
more
"Death is not a period but a comma in the
story of life." ~ Amos J.
Farver
''Besides, the ones that love us never
really leave us. You can always find them... [puts hand over
Harry's heart]... in here.'' ~ Sirius Black -
from 'Harry Potter and The Prisoner of Azkaban':
"Do
you not know that a man is not dead while his name is still
spoken?” ~
Terry Pratchett, 'Going Postal'.
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Remembering the Dead
by Henri J.M.
Nouwen
When we lose a dear friend, someone
we have loved deeply, we are left with a grief that can paralyse us
emotionally for a long time. People we love become part of us. Our
thinking, feeling and acting are codetermined by them: Our fathers,
our mothers, our husbands, our wives, our lovers, our children, our
friends ... they are all living in our hearts.
When they die a part of us has to
die too. That is what grief is about: It is that slow and painful
departure of someone who has become an intimate part of us. When
Christmas, the New Year, a birthday or anniversary comes, we feel
deeply the absence of our beloved companion. We sometimes have to
live at least a whole year before our hearts have fully said
good-bye and the pain of our grief recedes. But as we let go of
them they become part of our "members" and as we "re-member" them,
they become our guides on our spiritual journey.
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Taking the Sting Out of
Death by Henri J.M. Nouwen
Dying is
returning home. But even though we have been told this many times
by many people, we seldom desire to return home. We prefer to stay
where we are. We know what we have; we do not know what we will
get. Even the most appealing images of the afterlife cannot take
away the fear of dying. We cling to life, even when our
relationships are difficult, our economic circumstances harsh, and
our health quite poor. Still, Jesus came to take the sting out of
death and to help us gradually realise that we don't have to be
afraid of death, since death leads us to the place where the
deepest desires of our hearts will be satisfied. It is not easy for
us to truly believe that, but every little gesture of trust will
bring us closer to this truth.
Excerpts from
'Bread for the Journey', by Henri J.M. Nouwen, ©1997
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And if I go, while you're still here…
"And if I go, while you're still here… Know that I live on, Vibrating to a different measure, Behind a thin veil you cannot see through. You will not see me, So you must have faith. I wait for the time when we can soar together again, Both aware of each other. Until then, live your life to the fullest, And when you need me, Just whisper my name in your heart,
… I will be there."
~ Emily Dickinson
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Hymns & Music
"The Song of Farewell"
a version of the traditional "In Paradisum" is often played at
funerals.
Words and Music by Ernest Sands (b.1949).
excerpt
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Refrain:
May the choirs of angels come to greet you.
May they speed you to paradise.
May the Lord enfold you in his mercy.
May you find eternal life.
1. The Lord is my light and my help; it is he who protects
me from harm.
The Lord is the strength of my days; before whom should I tremble
with fear?
2. There is one thing I ask of the Lord; that he grant me my
heart-felt desire.
To dwell in the courts of our God every day of my life in his
presence.
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3. O Lord, hear my voice
when I cry; have mercy on me and give answer.
Do not cast me away in your anger, for you are the God of my
help.
4. I am sure I shall see the Lord's goodness; I shall
dwell in the land of the living.
Hope in God, stand firm and take heart, place all your trust in the
Lord.
>> Song of Farewell
midi
file
YouTube: (1) Vocal Solo,
Piano, String Quartet. Recorded on a pocket digital recorder.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4eAM3WEA7g
(2) www.youtube.com/watch?v=-lRMDMAktrU
(3) www.youtube.com/watch?v=wa7vpfm4Pj0
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In Paradisum
Gabriel Fauré - Requiem, Op. 48 - VII.
Watch
performance on YouTube
Requiem also known
as Mass for the dead.... the Rite of Christian Burial brings hope
and consolation to the living. While proclaiming the Gospel of
Jesus Christ and witnessing to the Christian hope in the
resurrection, the funeral rite also recalls to bereaved families
God’s mercy and love and meets the human need to turn always to God
in times of crisis.
Music
suggestions for funerals pdf
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A parish musician's guide to the
Order of Christian Funerals
pdf
| booklet
pdf
Ever Loved Funeral Songs
to help find the
right music for a funeral, memorial service or celebration of
life
OCP
Catholic Worship Resources
An alternative Hymn to Psalm
23: "The king of love my Shepherd is" YouTube
version
Hymn God be with You Till We Meet
Again below
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'Song for Athene'
(also known as
"Alleluia. May Flights of Angels Sing Thee to Thy
Rest")
music Sir John Tavener -
lyrics Mother Thekla >>>
info (Wikipedia)
listen #1 (Westminster Abbey
Choir) YouTube
listen #2
(UA Schola Cantorum)
YouTube
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Alleluia
Alleluia
May flights of angels sing thee to thy rest
Alleluia
Alleluia
Remember me, O Lord,
when you come into your kingdom
Alleluia
Alleluia
Give rest, O Lord, to your handmaid who has fallen asleep
Alleluia
Alleluia
The Choir of Saints have found the well-spring of life and door of
paradise
Alleluia
Alleluia
Life: a shadow and a dream
Alleluia
Alleluia
Come, enjoy rewards and crowns I have prepared for you.
Alleluia
Alleluia
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Fiddler's
Green' sung by The
Dubliners
Lyrics [all
rights reserved to the original authors]
As I roved by the dockside one evening so fair
To view the salt waters and take in the salt air
I heard an old fisherman singing a song
Oh, take me away boys me time is not long
Wrap me up in me oilskin and blankets
No more on the docks I'll be seen
Just tell me old shipmates, I'm taking a trip mates
And I'll see you someday on Fiddlers Green
Now Fiddler's Green is a place I've heard tell
Where the fishermen go if they don't go to hell
Where the weather is fair and the dolphins do play
And the cold coast of Greenland is far, far away
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Now when you're in dock and the long trip is through
There's pubs and there's clubs and there's lassies there too
And the girls are all pretty and the beer is all free
And there's bottles of rum growing on every tree.
Where the skies are all clear and there's never a gale
And the fish jump on board with one swish on their tail
Where you lie at your leisure, there's no work to do
And the skipper's below making tea for the crew
Now I don't want a harp nor a halo, not me
Just give me a breeze and a good rolling sea
I'll play me old squeeze-box as we sail along
With the wind in the riggin to sing me a song
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Hymn:
God Be with You Till We Meet Again
lyrics: Jeremiah Eames
Rankin, (tune 'Randolph' R. Vaughan Williams) Cardiff Festival
Choir on YouTube || The American Boychoir
on YouTube || piano version
YouTube || Vimeo
|| alternate tune (Tomer) links
below
God be with
you till we meet again,
By His counsels guide, uphold you,
With His sheep securely fold you,
God be with you till we meet again..
God be with you till we meet again,
'Neath His wings securely hide you,
Daily manna still provide you,
God be with you till we meet again.
God be with you till we meet again,
When life's perils thick confound you,
Put His arms unfailing round you,
God be with you till we meet again.
God be with you till we meet again,
Keep love's banner floating o'er you,
Smite death's threatening wave before you,
God be with you till we meet again.
Alternate
tune by William G Tomer + chorus:
Till we meet, till we meet,
Till we meet at Jesus' feet;
Till we meet, till we meet,
God be with you till we meet again
YouTube: link #1 || link #2
(Jessy Dixon) || link #3 || link #4 || link #5
(Daniel O'Donnell) || more info
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Prayer Attributed to
St. Augustine:
Watch, dear Lord, with those who wake or watch or
weep tonight, and give your angels charge over those who sleep.
Tend your sick ones, O Lord Jesus Christ, rest your weary ones,
bless your dying ones, soothe your suffering ones, shield your
joyous ones, and all for your love’s sake. Amen.
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Age Concern
England
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Samaritans
UK
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CRUSE bereavement
care - Offers free information and advice to anyone who has
been affected by a death - Provides support and counselling one to
one and in groups - Offers education, support, information and
publications to anyone supporting bereaved people - Increases
public awareness of the needs of bereaved people through
campaigning and information services
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Winston's Wish - a
charity supporting bereaved children and young
people.
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Elizabeth's
Smile -
charity support for grieving children
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Care for the Family -
giving hope to the bereaved >>
bereavement support organisations an extensive
list
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Many resources are on the website of
Funeral
Helper
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The Compassionate Friends
(UK) - (TCF) is an organisation of bereaved parents
and their families offering understanding, support and
encouragement to others after the death of a child or children.
They also offer support, advice and information to other relatives,
friends and professionals who are helping the family.
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Child Death
Helpline ~ for all those affected by the death of a
child. also telephone (UK) 0800 282986. Volunteers are
needed to work in this service. - www.childdeathhelpline.org.uk/
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SANDS
- The Stillbirth
and Neonatal Death Society
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A Little Lifetime Foundation
the voice for bereaved parents and their families across
Ireland.
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Child Bereavement
UK (formerly 'The Child Bereavement
Trust')
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Morning Light
Ministry is a Catholic ministry for bereaved
mothers and fathers who have experienced the death of their baby
through ectopic pregnancy, miscarriage, stillbirth or infant death
up to one year old. This Catholic ministry also welcomes bereaved
parents of other Christian denominations, bereaved parents of other
faiths and bereaved parents of no religious affiliation who are
struggling with the very notion of faith.
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Babyloss support
groups
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"And Should The Angels Call" ~ A poem, especially for those
mourning the loss of a child.
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Losing a Loved
One from 'The Art of Dying Well' website, offers a
helping hand to those grappling with issues around death and dying.
Based in the Catholic tradition but open to all, it features
real-life stories about the highs and lows of dealing with the
final journey. Professionals in palliative care, ethics, chaplaincy
and history have informed the site content.
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The Dying Matters
coalition is encouraging people to talk about
their wishes towards the end of their lives. It’s in everyone’s
interest to talk about it, before it’s too late; see also their
resources
page.
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WAY Widowed and
Young support
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A Lesson in Grief - by Judith
MacNutt - now links to 'Christian Healing
Ministries' by Judith and Francis MacNutt. A Christ-centered,
ecumenical, and non-profit organization that is dedicated to the
practice and teaching of healing prayer.
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Bereavement from The Royal College of
Psychiatrists.
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Bereavement Counselling
Directory - Find a qualified, registered,
professional bereavement counsellor near you [UK] - and many useful
articles - website also contains a number of
sections on other emotional disorders (types of distress
section)
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Journey of Hearts
- an online
healing place for anyone grieving
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Endings and
Beginnings - A collection of poetry and
quotes for everyone who has had to say goodbye too soon.
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Funeral
Readings, Funeral Poetry, Memorial for the Dead
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Guidelines for RC funerals
PDF |
booklet pdf | When
someone dies - a guide pdf | Burial of
ashes - a guide pdf
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Music suggestions for funerals pdf | A parish musician's guide
to the Order of Christian Funerals pdf
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pdf
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Requiem Mass also known as Mass for the
dead
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Ministration at the Time of Death |
general
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Lectionary Readings for
funerals
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Survivors of Bereavement by
Suicide - SOBS is a self-help,
voluntary organisation. Many of those helping have, themselves,
been bereaved by suicide. It exists to meet the needs and break the
isolation of those bereaved by the suicide of a close relative or
friend.
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'Help is at Hand' (NHS) a pdf resource for people bereaved by
suicide and other sudden, traumatic death
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'Coping
with Suicide loss' (USA site) - Nov '23 link was not working while their
site renews for 2024. Info may return later.
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Light A Candle in
memory
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site
links: Remembrance of our war dead | Prayer for 'Healing the Family Tree'
top of page
Holy Souls
Pray for
the Souls of all deceased parishioners in whose memory this page is
dedicated [and for all
bereaved families and friends] In your kindness pray
also for souls who have no one to pray for them. Into Your hands Lord we commend them. Eternal rest grant
unto them and let perpetual light shine upon them. May they
rest in peace - Requiescant in pace, Amen
"As we enter Heaven, we will see
them, so many of them, coming towards us and thanking us. We will
ask who they are and they will say: 'A poor soul you prayed for in
Purgatory!' " ~ Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen
Prayer for 'Healing the Family Tree' |
Homilies for
All Saints Day (2011)
Catholic Teaching on
Purgatory | Wikipedia | "It is a
holy and wholesome thought to pray for the dead that they may be
loosed from their sins" (2 Mac 12:46) | Novena
prayer 'For the Relief of the Poor Souls in Purgatory' as
published in 1931.
'The Secret of the Poor Souls in Purgatory' - An
interview with the Austrian mystic Maria Simma of Austria
(broken link, try a search)
"Get us out of here" by Nicky Eltz who documents the experiences of
the Austrian mystic Maria Simma (broken
link, try a search)
Medjugorje message November 6,
1986 "Dear children! Today I wish to call you to pray daily for
souls in purgatory. For every soul prayer and grace is necessary to
reach God and the love of God. By doing this, dear children, you
obtain new intercessors who will help you in life to realize that
all the earthly things are not important for you, that only Heaven
is that for which it is necessary to strive. Therefore, dear
children, pray without ceasing that you may be able to help
yourselves and the others to whom your prayers will bring joy.
Thank you for having responded to my call."
Prayer of St. Gertrude the
Great. Our Lord told St. Gertrude the Great, that the
following prayer would release 1,000 souls from Purgatory each time
it is said. The prayer was extended to include living sinners which
would alleviate the indebtedness accrued to them during their
lives. "Eternal Father, I offer Thee the Most Precious Blood
of Thy Divine Son, Jesus, in union with the masses said throughout
the world today, for all the holy souls in Purgatory, for sinners
everywhere, for sinners in the universal church, those in my own
home and within my family. Amen." more info
[St. Gertrude's life was the mystic life of the Cloister – a
Benedictine nun. She meditated on the Passion of Christ, which many
times brought a flood of tears to her eyes. She did many penances
and Our Lord appeared to her many times. She had a tender love for
the Blessed Virgin and was very devoted to the suffering souls in
Purgatory. She died in 1334. Her feast day is November
16th.]
Intergenerational Healing and
Prayer for Deliverance and Protection (Intergenerational
Healing)
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